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  1. When you put a lot of time and effort into planning your wedding you want to make sure things run smoothly on the day, and any other days you have planned activities for your wedding. Therefore, you need to make sure your guests are fully informed of what’s going on but without revealing too much.  Happy guests are informed guests. They like to come prepared so that they don’t let you down, but also so that they can have a wonderful time without having to worry about anything.

    If you can give them a heads-up in the invitation, then not only will you have happy, informed guests, but it means that you also won’t have a string of calls or emails asking you questions about the day which, you don’t want on the lead up to your wedding day. 

    Pearl Passion Pocket Invitation

    These tips should help ensure you include the right information in your wedding invitations to keep your guests in the know.

    •  Dress Code

    If you are getting married in a particular style of venue, you may want to set the tone with a particular dress code, for example black tie and cocktail dresses.  If you’re going for a particular theme or colour, you may also want your guests to dress accordingly, therefore, giving them a heads up on this makes sure not only do they arrive in the correct attire, but they don’t feel uncomfortable by being the only guest not dressed to impress!

    You may also want to give a heads up the women with regards to shoes (as us women do like our heels!), you may have a reception in a field or somewhere where the ground is uneven, so you don’t want your female guests either sinking into the mud or tripping over uneven surfaces. 

    Quite often for the evening reception, the bride will provide flip flops for the guests to change into so that they can hit the dance floor.  This is a great idea, but you don’t need to let your guests know about this one.

     Bespoke Pocketfold Invitation

    • Accommodation

    There may be many of your guests that have had to travel to get to your wedding venue and will most probably decide to stay for one or two nights.  It would be really helpful to them if you could give them a few local hotel names so that they have the choice of where to book.  Keep budgets in mind, some people might treat your wedding as a weekend away and don’t mind paying for an expensive hotel, whereas others may be on a budget and would be more than happy staying somewhere like a Travelodge hotel.  Some hotels let you block book rooms and provide a discounted rate to your guests.  This is worth looking into and offering to your guests.  You will be given a reference code for your guests to quote upon booking, so make sure this information is included in the invitation.

    • Transport

    Many of your guests will opt not to drive and may take either public transport or a taxi to get to your wedding.  If your budget allows, you might like to hire a minibus or a coach to take your guests from their hotels to your wedding venue, this does help with keeping to time and avoids people getting lost, it can be a great ice breaker and it gets them to the church on time!

    It would also be prudent to put local taxi company numbers in the invitation too, with a note to remind guests to book their taxis in advance, so they don’t have a lengthy wait for one at the end of the night.

    You might also want to think about including a map of the main junction and the route to the venue or hotel for your guests so that they have it to hand when driving to the hotel or venue.

     Place Name Cards

    • Gifts

    Whether or not you have requested gifts for your wedding, you will need to include this on the invitation.  Guests will want to know what you want in advance so that they can arrive with the gift.  However, equally if you don’t want gifts, you must explicitly express this on your invitation otherwise guests may contact you prior to the wedding to ask you.  These days many couples already live together and have everything they need for the home, therefore, they tend to ask for a gift of money towards their honeymoon or a deposit for a house.  If you are doing this too, a nice way to ask for money is through a lovely poem, which sounds a lot nicer than ‘give us the cash!’

     Bespoke Pinwheel Invitations

    • Extra-Curricular Activities

    If your wedding runs over a few days, you will need to give your guests the times, dates and places of where they need to be.  Give them information about the event, so that they are prepared and can pack accordingly, for example ‘Cocktails on the Terrace on Friday night’ lets them know that they can dress up, or ‘leisurely stroll around the grounds on Sunday afternoon’ lets them know they need to pack something comfy and warm. 

    All of this information can be designed as part of your overall wedding invitation, and could be displayed in pocketfold  or Pocket style invitation.

     Always remember a well-informed guest is a happy guest!

    Wedding Breakfast Menu

  2. Choosing the Right Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

    When you get engaged the first thing everyone wants to see is the ring and you yourself as the new Bride-to-Be can’t stop looking at it. Making it catch the light so that it sparkles, holding your hand up to your face so that just happens to be in the eye line of your colleague sitting opposite you.  To be honest that novelty doesn’t wear off, I still do that with my ring and I’ve been married eight years.

     However, once that ‘bling’ moment has died down (a little), you start to think about planning your wedding, and I’m not going to lie, it’s an immense thing to do and can be a little overwhelming, so it’s only natural that you’ll want to enlist help in the form of bridesmaids and groomsmen.

    Bride and Bridesmaids

     This in itself can be a huge task of who to choose and how many to have.  You might notice that friends suddenly start being extra nice to you, bringing you a nice cupcake to have with your coffee, or turning up on your doorstep with a pile of wedding magazines.  Being a bridesmaid is a huge honour and not a role that should be taken lightly. 

     What you need to remember and should be at the forefront of your mind when choosing who to have is that they do ultimately have jobs to do on the day. They’re not your ‘maids’ for nothing.  They will need to help get you to the toilet, keep your make-up topped up, ensure you’ve got a drink in your hand, keep an eye on Aunt Mavis, keep the children away from the champagne etc. 

     Therefore, what you don’t need is someone who is going to be worrying more about the size of their bum in their own dress than whether or not yours it tucked into your knickers! There are no hard and fast rules to dictate who you should have and how many you should have.  It used to be traditional that the Maid of Honour was someone who was already married, but that isn’t so today.


     When I was choosing my bridesmaids, I did have a list with about 20 names on it, and I had to whittle that down to two, actually I had to whittle it down to one, because I had already made a promise to one of the girls when I was 15 years old that she would be my bridesmaid, she was only three at the time, but I stuck to my word.  She is the only person I’ve known all my life and watched her grow from a baby to a beautiful young woman and it was a real honour to have her as my bridesmaid, she came to all my dress fittings, was honest in her opinion of how they looked and drove me to all the places I needed to go to get wedding bits, she was brilliant and did everything without question. 

    Bride and Bridesmaids

     How did I choose the remaining one?  Well, I am very lucky to be blessed with lots of friends and two sisters who I am very close to.  However, as much as I wanted to have my sisters, I couldn’t stretch to four bridesmaids, so I gave them both other roles, one was a witness and the other did a reading, so they still had significant roles on my big day and they were both happy with that.  I decided I wanted a friend that would be reliable, that I knew could help me with the planning and would be honest with me and tell me if I was being a Bridezilla, and one name stood out and she did an amazing job. She spent hours finding venues and whittling them down, booking viewings for us, finding suppliers. She really went above and beyond and that’s why she got promoted to Maid of Honour.  However, in all honesty this is what you should expect from your bridesmaids, they are there to help you, so make use of them!


     Get your bridesmaids involved in the early stages of the planning and make it clear at the start what you expect from them.  If they don’t feel that they can fulfil that role then get them to tell you early rather than spending a lot of money on dress, shoes, and accessories only to be let down at the last minute.

     Now I am not a man, but I am sure I can shed some light on choosing the right groomsmen! Most men will have chosen their best man when they were about five and probably won’t have changed their mind much over the years.  Good Groomsmen will basically run the wedding, so getting the right people is essential.  If you are not having a Toastmaster then put your Best Man to good use.  He can be used to get everyone together for photographs, make sure everyone is on the right transport, people are seated for the wedding breakfast, make the announcements etc.  If you are having Ushers, make sure that they are OK with talking to the guests, getting them to their seats and generally keeping an eye on the guests throughout the day.

    Groom and Groomsmen

     My husband’s best man was a friend of his of 20 or so years. However, I didn’t really know him so it was a big issue for me having someone I didn’t know being in charge of my big day.  However, he did do a great job and everything ran like clockwork and to time.  He was there doing his job right up to getting the last person on the bus back to the hotel.  My ushers got everyone seated quickly in the church so that we could start on time and they helped group people for photos etc.  I know that if we had gone with my choice of a best man instead of my husbands it would have been a different story.

    Groom and Best Man 

    Make sure you and your partner talk through who you would like to have for all roles and make sure you both comfortable with those decisions.  You don’t want any feuding or uncomfortable situations on the day.  If people you’ve chosen don’t know each other, try to get them all together a few times prior to the wedding so that they’ve got the chance to get to know each other and understand what’s expected of them as a whole.

    Groom and Best Man

    I leave you with this last piece of advice – Don’t ever have someone just because you’ve been told to, it should be your decision and no one else’s, it’s your day!